How to Win People Over While Being Yourself
Do you ever wonder how you can be more likable? You can start today... I’ve sold $10MM+ enterprise accounts. Winning people over was part of my job. Here’s what I learned…
a thread by @LifeHornsWay
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Think about yourself only 90% of the time…
- Most people think of themselves 99.9% of the time
- Reduce that by 10%...
- People will find you unbelievably charming
- Be present. Focus!
Emanate enthusiasm and confidence!
- Do you like being around downers?
- Neither does anyone else...
- If you’re positive and enthusiastic, people want IN
Connect and Listen
- Use a person's nam
- Ask questions…
- But listen deeply, don’t just blurt out your next thought
A fundamental human want is to feel valued, appreciated, and important.
When you're confident (which you are) you help other people feel those things.
Be polite and respectful…
- This doesn’t mean you can’t be assertive
- Never talk down to anyone
- Everyone thinks mean people suck
- Don’t be that person
Give authentic compliments
Kids get compliments all the time...
- As people get older, real compliments dwindle
- A genuine compliment can make someone’s week
- It can be about anything
- The only criteria is it needs to be sincere
Smile
“When you greet people with a smile, you’ll have a good time meeting them.” – Dale Carnegie
- Smiling is the easiest way to be likable.
- And it’ll make you feel better too.
- Make it sincere. Make it real. Have fun.
Conclusion
This advice is a good baseline.
There are specific instances where you should use a different approach.
For example, dealing with a hyper alpha.
But for 90% of your interactions... This advice will make you MAGNETIC.
That's all friends.
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